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Lean in to your tribe. Do not lean out!

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Lean in to your tribe. Do not lean out!

You know that epiphany moment when you realise you have not been following your own advice?

That moment when the word “fraud” drops into your own head.  I don’t often have that word popping in these days as I am fairly congruent with who I am, the purpose I am here, and what I plan to achieve and how I show up.

Yet at a recent event I realised I had been ignoring one of the main pieces of advice I give my students. Its almost a rule in our school, not advice.

“Lean in and do not lean out”

Lean in for support. Tell someone. Ask someone. Let the team know what you need.

Don’t lean out.

Don’t pull back into your own head. Don’t withdraw if you are struggling. Don’t keep it to yourself.

Yet in 2022, that’s exactly what I did. I leaned out.

I leaned away from my tribe of beautiful business women because life got tough. Everyone was going through some sort of struggle. I mean. Gees if 2020 and 2021 weren’t hard enough… 2022 was mammoth. So, I leaned away to manage and process on my own. I disconnected.  When the women’s group came back together in person again, because we could.  I didn’t.  I had leaned out.  I had a whole story in my head about whether I fit there, how I fit there. And this wasn’t about my business. I know I have a very successful established business – so it wasn’t from a business space.

This was personal. I underestimated my need for connection. I am a people person for sure.  I underestimated connecting with familiar faces regularly. I underestimated the effects on the human body of hugs, and touching, and feeling connected. It’s essential for the soul. It’s essential for my soul.

2022, my whole world upside down. Everything I knew felt completely unstable. Life. Home. Business. Relationships. I grabbed hold of everything that did feel somewhat stable until I could find some stability in other areas. There were some fabulously amazing accomplishments too. Amazon best-selling book. Successful launch of new courses. More students answering the call and enrolling in EFT – Tapping Practitioner training.  Yet that word fraud popped up in my head and I allowed it to stay. I gave it air-time. I almost believed it for a time.

I leaned away from my tribe because I questioned whether I belonged.  We only belong as much as we allow ourselves to belong. It isn’t anyone’s job to pull us in. We need to be the one to step back in or to put up our hand and say, “I need support.” “I need some help.” “I need something from someone.” But to ask for support is vulnerable. Vulnerable can be difficult, very difficult times when we are already feeling a sense of isolation or withdrawal.  I was pulling myself out of my tribes. Once upon a time, being “out of the tribe” often meant we didn’t survive. I wasn’t pushed out, I pulled myself out.

Vulnerable is rare in this world. It opens us up to the deepest fear that we don’t belong. It exposes us to being shunned or to hear the response, “no.”  Vulnerable is hard. But vulnerable is essential for growth. Vulnerable is where we can step into more of who we are as an individual. Showing our own vulnerability also gives those around permission to show some too. We all lead each other. Whether we realise this or not. We all lead. We all inspire. We all shine in our own unique way.

It’s time to lean in. It’s time for me to lean in.

If you have leaned out, it’s time to lean back in too.  We need each other. Business is hard. It has challenges and it has struggles. BUT we have each other. We just need to lean in.

If you don’t have a tribe yet, find one. Find one that fits who you want to be, not who you think you are today. Find a tribe you can grow INTO.

You Belong!

 


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